Being a Mom & Entrepreneur – The Top 3 Challenges and How to Overcome Them
I love my job and I LOVE being a Mom…more than anything. But let’s face it, juggling the duties of entrepreneurship and motherhood comes with real challenges. You know the feeling. You want to give both 110% of your attention at the same time…all of the time. Nothing comes before my son, plain and simple. He is my world and he will always come first. However, when those emails come in during dinner, or I think about what I need to get done in the morning while I give him a bath…a bit of that guilt creeps in. It’s not easy to give all that you have, all of the time.
So, if I could sum up the top challenges of being an entrepreneur and a Mommy and how to best overcome them…here’s what I would say:
Challenge: TIME! There are not enough hours in the day. There’s always another email to read or send, and always one more giggle I want to hear as I put Tyler to bed.
Solution: Make the time. You CAN do it. Even if it’s an hour in the morning and a few hours before bedtime. It doesn’t matter how old your kids are…there may be time at the beginning and ending of each day to enjoy. When I get Tyler out of bed, dressed and fed before daycare, we always end up singing, pretending we are Captain America or he’ll share the dream he had about flying with butterflies. When I pick him up, he tells me about his day, he names all of his best friends and we end up singing for at least half the car ride home. We also make sure to all have dinner together (dinner conversation with a 3 year old is usually a repeat of what happened in the car). I also love bath time and bed time. It’s a great time to connect, to be silly and it’s usually when the best moments (and giggles) happen. Time flies by SO fast. For me, Tyler looks bigger by the day and I know time is the best gift I have with him. So I make the most out of each morning and evening.
Challenge: There are numerous, differing demands on any given day that it’s easy to feel like you’re letting someone down at any given moment.
Solution: Do what you can, when you can do it. Entrepreneurship, just like motherhood, is not a 9-5 job. With running my own business, there are multiple things that need to get done and I’m the one to do it. So, I schedule my most pressing meetings early after Tyler gets dropped off. I try to pack in as much as I can before I pick up Tyler at the end of the day. After he settles in for the night, I am back to checking emails, finishing a blog, doing research, etc. Some nights I’m up late working, then Tyler is up by 6:30am. Just remember to be kind to yourself. If you didn’t get to something that day, do it the next day. Your best weapon is a sense of humor and to enjoy the moment. I started this business for a reason. It’s important to enjoy the ride!
Challenge: You have two full-time jobs: running your business and your family. This makes it challenging to take good care of yourself, mentally and physically. Hence, burnout.
Solution: Since you can’t afford to burn out, you have to decide what will keep you from that. For me, it’s working out. My 45 min run or time in the gym is what makes me happy. It energizes me and it gives me clarity. It’s different for everyone, so figure out what you need to get you in the right place, mentally and physically. I put it on my calendar as it’s just as important as my next meeting.
What are your challenges? Have you come up with solutions to juggle it all? I want to hear about them!